It’s true, anyone can be successful. It’s all in the mindset, it’s the sudden realization that you can do anything you want, that nothing and nobody can hold you back from at least giving it a try. And once you realize that, the world will open up for you.
Successful people come from all walks of life, yet they all have one thing in common: where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to overcome. This perspective helps successful people to think differently to everyone else, which is important because if you think like everyone else, no matter how smart or experienced you are, you won’t go further. By thinking outside the box and going against the grain, successful people rise above their limitations. Successful women that inspire us know how to use this mindset and embrace some thought patterns, so, how can you change your mindset and what do you need to do to think like a successful woman? Here are a few tips…
THEY THINK WITH CONFIDENCE
You won’t know if a successful woman is feeling anxious, insecure or, confused, because she knows how to think with confidence and display the right body language. They have confidence even if they make a mistake, they are proud of their efforts and they constantly try to do better and improve. ‘For me, confidence comes from being comfortable in what you’re wearing. I’m as comfortable in a pair of sky-high saddle boots as I am in my trainers,’ Victoria Beckham has said.
Victoria Beckham has a point, you should be able to be confident no matter what you’re wearing, no matter where you are, and no matter who you’re with. Confidence comes from the inside, successful women build on this by pushing themselves out of their comfort zones.
THEY THINK ABOUT THEMSELVES
There’s a reason why people like Jennifer Lopez and Gwyneth Paltrow are so attached to their habits of mindfulness and gratitude, it helps them to stay relaxed, calm, and grateful no matter what is thrown at them. Spending time on yourself and thinking in terms of what you can do for yourself is always better, rest will help you bounce back and stay on top.
Track your self-care in a planner like the Getting Stuff Done planner, with sections for your meal-prep, water intake, exercise, shopping lists and more you’ll be able to take care of yourself while you work on your own success. As Arianna Huffington says about her new company Thrive, “The idea behind Thrive is to end the delusion that we have to burn out in order to succeed.”
THEY TRY TO BE AS HONEST AS POSSIBLE
Honesty is the best policy. First, you have to be honest with yourself about what you’re capable of, what you want from life and the changes you need to make, honesty allows you to make genuine connections with people. Although there’s a time and a place for 100% honesty, successful people know how to be honest and constructive, to give feedback and their opinion, and to admit when they’ve made a mistake. It’s tough to learn but it’s important for your growth and development, and it’ll help you become a better leader. Remember, there’s a reason why women like Taraji P Henson are so popular, because of their unashamed honesty about themselves, their mistakes, and their lives.
THEY SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY
To be successful you need to rewire your brain to see everything as an opportunity to learn. There’s a saying that there are no stupid questions, successful people know that in order to learn and grow you need to ask the right question at the right time. They also know that to stay relevant and bring value to whatever they’re doing, they need to learn.
Look at women like J.K Rowling and Emma Watson, they’re at the top of their game because they constantly strive to learn new things. From a language to a skill like baking (Emma Watson), you never know when something you’ve learned will be useful. But also, learning constantly will help you to grow, develop, and think more clearly.
THEY DON’T JUDGE
We’re often pre-disposed to judge, but truly successful people try to see things without pre-judging. They have an open mind, particularly because they’re looking for ways to learn constantly.
Jennifer Lopez learned this lesson early on when she worked so hard that she experienced judgment a lot and felt as though she lost herself, “When I was young, I was just about hard work. But as I got older, I did experience anxiety, doubt, judgment, and it’s so easy to lose yourself for a second.” she said.
THEY KNOW THEIR WORTH
“Power’s not given to you. You have to take it.” Beyonce told Vogue in 2003. It’s true, successful women have been through many hardships, have had many knockbacks and rejection and have just kept going. J.K Rowling was told that Harry Potter would never be a successful children’s book, Beyonce was told she’d only ever be a pop star, but she wanted to be more, she wanted to be an icon, to direct, to learn to act, and to keep building herself to be bigger and better.
Successful women don’t doubt themselves, sure there are other people who can do what they do, but there’s nobody out there like them, Beyonce is constantly compared to other artists, and she simply says “I have an authentic, God-given talent, drive, and longevity that will always separate me from everyone else.” It’s not boastful to be aware of your talents and have confidence in them.
THEY DREAM BIG
Successful people reach for the seemingly impossible, but they do so in a way that is actionable and realistic. Simple steps will drive big progress, and the act of a simple plan can really take your goals to the next level. The Getting Stuff Done planner will help you to make a plan for all those big dreams and actually stick to it. I mean, some of the big dreams of successful women seem completely out of this world, but when they put a plan into action it happens. Beyonce, for example, wanted to direct a documentary, and then started putting steps in place to make a documentary about her own life that was well-received.
The bigger you dream, the better. But just make sure it’s realistic and achievable. One thing you need to realize, and you will as you push yourself, there are no limits on what you can do. You can write and publish a book, create your own store, make an album, thanks to the internet the resources are at your fingertips now, which means you can take on the world with the right plan and make it happen!