A few little tweaks here and there are all you need to improve the quality of your life massively. You might not know it, but in order to make every day a perfect day, you just need to be mindful about how you’re walking into it. You first need to stop thinking that your perfect day needs to be unrealistic because, with just a couple of minor tweaks, you’ll realize you’re already living your best life.
You just need to go out there and grab it…
1. Write the story of your perfect day
Sometimes, the easiest way to get ahead is to start with where you want to go. The best thing you can do is grab your planner and write down what your perfect day would be. We don’t mean some unrealistic version of your day where you have millions to spend and can fly to Paris in a private jet. We mean your perfect version of the day you live every day of the week. What would make it perfect?
Would you get up early and have a healthy and balanced breakfast? Would you work out for an hour in your lunch break? Would you have bundles of energy and time to spend on your self-care in the evening? Most of the time, when we think we don’t have enough time, it’s just because we’re not managing that time effectively.
That’s why we created the Getting Stuff Done planner. Because to be successful you need to keep every area of your life aligned. You need to focus just as much time and attention into your self-care, your meal plan, your expenses, shopping lists, and your water intake as you do to your daily to-dos and tasks, and that’s the only way you’ll make sure every single day is better than yesterday.
2. Get your evenings in order
As clinical psychologist Ari Tuckman, PsyD, said, getting enough sleep is “an obvious but often overlooked” strategy.
It’s easy to steal time from sleep by staying up “just a little longer,” whether it’s to finish the laundry or finish a TV show. There’s always something that needs to be done or some fun temptation that keeps us from getting into bed on time. The problem is that the reward is had immediately — which makes it hard to resist — but the price is paid tomorrow.
It’s not uncommon to get a second wind at night, even if you were tired during the day, so that makes it even harder to stick to your bedtime. Unfortunately, even one short night’s sleep hampers our complex problem-solving, attention, and memory and makes us more irritable and short-tempered. This gets even worse when several short nights stack up.
The solution is easy to say but harder to do: Get into bed on time and you’ll feel better all the next day and hopefully get more work done, too.
3. You should be doing this every day
There is literally no excuse in the book for not working out. You might think you have no interest in getting in shape, you’re proud of your body as it is but working out doesn’t just benefit your body and you shouldn’t just do it when summer is lurking around the corner.
Regular exercise is an important part of not just physical health, but also mental health. It’s also one of the first things to go when we get busy. To prevent it from getting squeezed out, make it sacred and don’t let anything else intrude.
The best way to do this is to schedule it in and start writing down the benefits you’ve felt. Using the Fit Is The Sh*t planner is the only way I’ve managed to go to Barry’s Bootcamp every week. What’s great about the Fit Is The Sh*t planner is that you can see your progress. I love keeping all my progress photos and showing them to everyone who’ll look at them, and then I write down how I feel, what I did that I was proud of and what I can improve on.
4. Stop thinking in the past (or the future)
According to Alison Thayer, LCPC, CEAP, a psychotherapist at Urban Balance, LLC this can be challenging, especially in today’s world:
This is difficult for everyone, even therapists. It can be very difficult to focus on what is directly in front of you and ensure that you are fully present.
Today’s technology and expectation to be connected or available to work at all times is one of the most prominent challenges people face when trying to be present in the “here and now.”
Honor the past, learn from it, accept it and let it go. Don’t obsess or worry about the future. Life is more manageable when you are grounded in the present. Achieve clarity through mindfulness practices such as deep breathing and meditation.
5. Don’t set too many goals
Setting goals is a key step in accomplishments. Holding ourselves to goals that we cannot reach can damage our self-esteem and inhibit our interest in trying to reach these goals again.
When setting your mind to reach a goal, ask yourself “Is this realistic and can I actually attain this goal?” If the answer is no, consider breaking the goal down into intermediate steps or modifying it all together.
6. Rewire your brain
There’s a reason why the saying “When life throws you lemons, make lemonade” has been around for years. When things aren’t going right, ask yourself “Could things be worse?” or “Is there anything I can take out of this that can be a benefit to me?”
More often than not, there is a positive aspect to things that happen, even those that feel negative. Try to view it in a different light and you may find your attitude turn around.
7. Pass on your gratefulness
“If you focus on what you don’t have, you will be unhappy and attract negativity. Be grateful for what you have and you will attract positivity, opportunity, and success,” Marter said.
Emily Campbell, LCPC, CEAP, a psychotherapist at Urban Balance, LLC, suggested: “Send[ing] a short note of appreciation to someone for something you appreciated about them this week.”
8. Think about your intentions
According to Marter, “As in sports psychology, positive visualization increases the likelihood of success. We largely create our own realities through our thoughts and intentions, so clarify them by writing out your careers goals and objectives.”
Thayer suggested carving out time to set intentions for the following day. “Make it a ritual and part of your daily routine, like in the shower, when driving to work, or drinking your morning coffee,” she said.